We’ve looked at Coaching People through Homeostasis, Coaching People Through Endings and Coaching People Through the Neutral Zone. Only now are we ready to coach people through beginnings.
A beginning does not necessarily happen at the start of something new. That might sound odd, but remember that we are talking about the inner workings of the brain here, and just because you are starting something new doesn’t necessarily mean that you are ready for the new beginning psychologically.
So the following questions might help:
- What was the problem that caused this new start? Who decided we would do this? On what evidence? What would have happened if nothing had been done to solve it? What would have happened to us if that had happened?
- What is your autobiography to date? What have you learned?
- What do you really want?
- If your life ended today, what would be unlived?
- What is the outcome?
- If you knew you are going to be really successful, what do you want to have achieved by…? How will you know? How will you phase that outcome? What is your step-by-step plan?
- How will you contribute?
- What can you do now to stop getting ready and to act?
- What is it going to feel like when you have actually done x?
- What obstacles do you need to overcome?
- What can you do to support yourself, be gentle on yourself, give yourself time for indulgences?
- What puzzling or unusual things are happening?
Credits to Diane Clutterbuck, William Bridges, Judy Oliver
