The Drama Triangle Like the parent, adult, child model that we looked at on Friday, this is from the Transactional Analysis world. I use it on myself all the time, to work out where I am operating and whether there is a more useful place to be in the Winner’s Triangle. The triangle has three roles,
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Three steps to nipping negativity in the bud
So you’ve overcome your own discomfort about giving feedback…but then you are faced with someone who takes everything as a negative, someone who thinks you are picking on them. How do you address that? First, look to yourself. How objective are you being when you give that feedback? In other words, what real-life example are
Structure, Stimulation and Strokes
I’ve been reading (and have shared some via twitter if you want to check them out) a lot of blog posts in the past few days about New Year’s Resolutions. Anyway, in a similar vein, I’d like to encourage all of you supervisors out there to adopt a New Year’s Resolution to give your people more structure,
What’s the buzz? What’s intriguing your peers?
As I was looking through the statistics for the blog this week, a few of the posts stood out as your favourites. So for the benefit of our new followers and in case you missed them first time around, here’s a short-list of the most popular blog posts from the last 6 months: Get Out of
Emotional Intelligence and the Integrated Adult
I’ve been thinking a lot about strokes lately (can you tell??) and there are a couple in particular that are on my mind at the moment. One was a positive piece of feedback from Bob (for those of you new to this blog, Bob is my boss); and one was a constructive piece of feedback
The Stroke Economy
Your role as a supervisor is to give strokes as you manage your people’s performance. (And when I talk about managing performance, I am not just talking about the once/twice a year performance appraisals – I’m talking about the daily interactions that increase performance). It’s about giving people attention, whether that’s through praise, recognition, thanks,
Integrated Adult
I’ve been reading through my notes from my Transactional Analysis 101 course, to develop my own understanding of how I can get the right balance between Parent, Adult and Child behaviors. Seems like it might be useful for me to share it with you guys too. So here goes, let me try to translate it
Being an adult
So I’ve shared the first draft of the conversation starters, and I mentioned yesterday that we are going to add a different layer to them that enables the supervisee to come to the conversation fully prepared, in adult mode. I’ve mentioned this adult thing a few times lately, so let me explain more.
